CinCHouse: The ‘lovely wife’: She deserves thunderous applause
Posted : Monday Jul 21, 2008 11:06:42 EDT
A woman in our midst is moving on — from her current place in life — from the military, to a new locale.
She is the lady we see standing next to the military fellow, dutifully by his side at his retirement ceremony. At other times, she has been invisible to us. We see him, but her presence is transparent. Don’t be fooled, however. She is always there in a place of honor.
But who is she?
We hear the accolades for the one in uniform and his impressive collection of professional accomplishments. We may not know him personally, but his uniform tells the tales of where he’s been, what he’s done and with whom he has served. Speeches are given and his sacrifices, his challenges, his career, his service to country are extolled.
But what about her?
She wears no uniform, yet she carries herself with equal distinction. Her contributions may not be found in a speech or in a proclamation signed by dignitaries. Yet somehow, we know her. We know of her service. We know of her sacrifices. We know whom she helped, whom she served.
We are the ones she comforted. We benefited from her leadership, her guidance, her shared experience and — if we were lucky — her friendship. We were mentored by her. She was the one we admired. She was the one who set the example for others to follow.
But this is his retirement, his moment. At his ceremony, a few words will be spoken about her role as partner. Perhaps she’ll be given a certificate suitable for framing or a trinket to hang around her neck. Items that, not unlike her, are an understatement of the lives she touched, of the difference she made. Items that won’t show up on an “I love me” wall, but will be stored away, appreciated but not flaunted.
Who is she? She is the one whose name follows the phrase, “… and his lovely wife …” She is the one who spends endless hours “hurrying up to wait.” She is the fulcrum on which both the family’s and the mission’s needs balance.
She is the commander in chief of the house. She is the advance scout. She is the logistics support. She is the rear detachment. She is all things to all people. But most of all, she is whatever she needs to be.
So when the moment comes to acknowledge her at his retirement, please refrain from polite applause. Instead, jump to your feet. Give the woman a sincere, thunderous standing ovation. Show her you mean it. Show her she meant something to you, to the military and to the service of her country.
Who is she, you ask?
She is his wife. A “lovely wife.” A military wife.
Regina Galvin is editor-in-chief of CinCHouse.com, Operation Homefront’s online community for military wives and women in uniform. An Army brat and Army wife for 22 years, she is married to Col. Jim Galvin and has two daughters, Shelby, 14 and Olivia, 10. They live at Fort Leavenworth, Kan.
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